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The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism |  | Authors: Temple Grandin, Sean Barron
Publisher: Future Horizons
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Pages: 383
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ISBN: 193256506X
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Publication Date: November 1, 2005
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Dr. Temple Grandin and Sean Barron use their colorful life stories to explain the unwritten rules and patterns of social relationships. They create guidelines for living and working with others and illustrate their infinite applications, in even the most complex situations. The authors brilliant insights are invaluable to anyone who has ever felt "outside the norm" in school, at work, or when relating to people in general. Dr. Grandin has received enormous accolades for her best-selling book Animals in Translation: Using the Mysteries of Autism to Decode Animal Behavior, but, more often than not, its because she "has transformed autism from being an unfortunate disability to being an enviable advantage that many of us would give anything to experience." She and her co-author Sean Barron carry this mantle one gargantuan step further with Unwritten Rules. They give us insight into our own world like no one else has.
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 Wonderful! November 20, 2005
Just me
212 out of 215 found this review helpful
I love this book and would strongly recommend it to anyone interested in autism and/or sociology. I mention sociology because, even if you have no interest in autism, the book is a great look at all of the unwritten rules and codes in our society that we live by but may be unaware of. Also, we are reintroduced to Sean Barron, thirteen years after we first met him in "There's a Boy in Here".
I really feel that anyone who is working on social skills with someone on the autistic spectrum should read this book. I have looked at plenty of other books on teaching social skills, but there are some things that the books written by non-autistic authors just don't cover. Temple and Sean give frequent accounts of their reactions in social situations during various points in their lives, followed by explanations of why they reacted this way and what their rationale was at the time. There is a ton of really useful information here!
One point perhaps worth mentioning is that the focus of this book is very much on teaching those on the autistic spectrum about the rules and expectations of our society, so know that going in. This is a point that people may feel differently about - while some people advocate teaching these things to varying degrees, there are those who (in my understanding, at least) advocate for autism culture and believe in less 'adjustment' on the part of people with autism and instead more acceptance of the autistic way of doing things. Either way, I think there should be something in this book for many different types of readers, be it a background in teaching social skills, a look at sociology, two interesting partial auto-biographies, etc.
I don't know when I last recommended a book this widely... June 17, 2006
valentine03 (Texas)
105 out of 109 found this review helpful
...or this fast! I haven't actually finished it yet, you see, but every page seems to be a revelation. After sharing several passages with my teen son, who has Asperger's, today he took it away from me and began reading it himself. The front flap is his bookmark, the back flap is mine.
This book has incredibly valuable information for everyone who has contact with someone on the autism spectrum, most especially parents and teachers. My plan is to order a number of copies, highlight personally relevant passages, and hand out free copies to teachers and administrators as my son enters high school. I am convinced that the information in this book has the power to improve not only the life of my son, but of every other child and adult on the spectrum, diagnosed or undiagnosed, that they have contact with.
Great, great thanks go out to Temple and Sean and their genius of an editor. This is a book with the power to help effect positive change for a long time.
Fascinating Guide to Understanding & Teaching the Autistic Mind March 28, 2007
Jack Gardner (Austin, TX United States)
61 out of 62 found this review helpful
Fascinating. One author with minimal, and one with maximum, emotionally-influenced autism, provides a range of insights for understanding and teaching minds on the autistic spectrum.
One important theme is that professionals often don't know what they are talking about and may do more harm than good, though many are trying and helping. Often, determined parents and common sense are the best approach, though understanding how to teach the autistic mind is difficult.
For example, one mother was aggravated over her son's tracking dirt in, constantly telling him to wipe his shoes and punishing him over time. One day she noticed as he came in that he bent down and carefully wiped the top of his shoes. Once she demonstrated what she meant by wiping one's shoes, there was no more problem.
Kids are unique. Being corrected about how to place eating utensils and napkins at a dinner table is a helpful learning experience for Temple, but a depressing condemnation for Sean. He sees his error as incompetence and something everyone else knows. Must first gain a perspective on how important this error is in the broader scheme of things.
The first half gives insights into how these two learned things and why they had troubles. The second half of the book gives ten rules of life that autism makes it difficult to understand and suggests ways of teaching these.
If you don't have this one yet, you need it! June 23, 2006
rosygirl (tennessee)
34 out of 35 found this review helpful
I just finished reading this book. I have to tell you that it is the best book on understanding social relationships and Autism/Asperger's, that I have ever read. The unique perspective that the authors give on how they, themselves, overcame so many social misconceptions and misunderstandings, is one that is uncompared. As two adults with ASD, the information they have to offer is invaluable. I highly recommend this for anyone that works or lives with someone with ASD/Asperger's.
Excellent book for anyone, but especially parents of autism spectrum children April 29, 2006
Grandma (Ocala, FL United States)
32 out of 33 found this review helpful
I have been reading a new book by these two autism spectrum individuals who have
been successful in adult life, entitled "Unwritten Rules of Social
Relationships:Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism," and on the back cover Sean's mother says, "I wish I had this book when Sean was a child. It would have helped me understand Sean so much more."
As I am reading it, I am seeing echoes of my grandson's struggles over and over again. And also the two individuals who wrote it, with some help from an editor, are quite different from one another. Grandin is an Asperger's thinking-type scientist, and Barron is an emotion-feeling-type autistic individual, more like my grandson in many ways. Both of them, however, feel deeply and intensely.
As adults (Grandin is now almost 60), they have been able to review and process
their own life struggles to help others through the maze of what sometimes seem like alien social customs. And they have come up with 10 Rules that if we can help our children understand them, will make life much easier for them. At the risk of giving away the plot (;-)) I'm going to list the first six here:
"Rule #1: Rules are Not Absolute. They are Situation-based and People-based.
Rule #2: Not Everything is Equally Important in the Grand Scheme of Things.
Rule #3: Everyone in the World Makes Mistakes. It doesn't have to ruin your day.
Rule #4: Honesty is Different than Diplomacy
Rule #5: Being Polite is Appropriate in any Situation.
Rule #6: Not Everyone Who is Nice to Me is My Friend.
I highly recommend this book. Tomorrow I'm going to be filling in for a nearby
pastor who is going away for the weekend, and I have to do a children's sermon. I had already decided to print out a copy of a traffic light, and talk about how "Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right"--two red lights don't make a green light...to the assembled young kids at the front of the congregation. Much to my surprise, when I started to read the book, Temple quoted that in the first paragraph of her first chapter as an example of a rule that helped her in her childhood in the 50s.
By the way, if we could get the neurotypical population to understand Rule
number 1, we could have a lot better inclusive school system and society.
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